Freelancing is hard. Being your own boss is hard. We tend to be too self-critical, too perfectionistic, and hold ourselves back from the real success we set out to attain.
00:00 Welcome to the photo report. This is Braedon Flynn, your host, and this episode's going to be a little different than our typical episodes. Usually I'm interviewing top photographers and trying to draw out some of the story of where they've been, how they've got there, the business behind their art and all that sort of stuff, but I also wanted to start just I guess giving some input or advice and little shorter clips that are in the interview format where it's just me talking and this is going to be one of those episodes. So I recorded a clip for Youtube and I'm just going to use that cut so it's going to sound a little different than this awesome microphone I'm using, but I really hope you like it and if you want to check out the youtube channel, it's just my name, Braden Flynn, b r a e d o n and I do a little bit behind the scenes that I'm going to try to keep doing these and I want to know if you like this version of the podcast.
00:49 Do you want me to keep doing this or do you want to say, hey, knock it off Britain, just interview people. They have way better things to say, so really hope this can be encouraging and your journey and here it goes. What is going on guys? It's Brendon Flynn and wanting to make a video to talk about some of the stuff that is just constantly on my heart in regards to just the realm of being a freelancer and being an entrepreneur and I mean, do you even know the difference between those two things but, but really this, I think it's a myth. I would say that being your own boss is incredible and the dream that everyone should want. And I actually don't think it's for everyone and wanted to just. Yeah, talk about that a little bit and was listening to a podcast by Tim Ferriss and also listened to a lot of Seth Godin.
01:41 If you don't know him, uh, you should look up his name. He is. He's actually in the marketing hall of fame, but I think he's going to be one of the voices that is really this generation, this era's like people. They're basically to look back and be like, Seth Godin was the voice of just truth in regards to marketing and culture and all that stuff, but he wrote a he. He writes daily in a blog, you could just look up seth Godin and Google and his name will come up or just seth even and he wrote a post a handful of years ago that is titled The world's worst boss and I wanted to read that to you and then just talk a little bit about it, but here it goes. The world's worst boss. That would be you and if you're not self employed, your bosses, you, you manage your career, your day, your responses.
02:32 You manage how you sell your services and your education and the way you talk to yourself. Odds are you're doing it poorly. If you had a manager that talked to you the way that you talk to you, you'd quit if you had a boss that wasted as much time in your day as you do, they fire her. If an organization developed as employees as poorly as you are developing yourself, it would soon go under. I'm amazed at how often people choose to fail when they go out on their own. I liked how he used that word. People choose to fail when they get on go out on their own or when they end up in one of those rare jobs that encourages one to set an agenda and manage themselves. Faced with the freedom to excel, they falter and hesitate and stall and ultimately punt. We're surprised when someone self directed arrived to the scene, someone who figures out a way to work from home, and then it turns out into a two year journey, laptop in hand as they explore the world while doing their job.
03:30 We're shocked that someone uses evenings and weekends to get a second education or start a useful new site business and we're envious. When we encounter someone who has managed to bootstrap themselves into happiness as if that's a rare or uncalled for thing, there are a few good books on being a good manager. Fewer still on managing yourself. It's hard to think of a more essential thing to learn and that post just stood out to me so strongly and he also is getting interviewed by Seth is getting interviewed by Tim Ferriss on a recent podcast, the Tim Ferriss show. If you don't listen to that, another really good one and and they reference back to this post which made me think of it and and it. It is so true because the element of managing yourself is actually like. It's a really difficult thing and I would, I would argue or state and I would love if people could come back and say, no, you're absolutely wrong.
04:29 It's just you. You sort of suck it, all of that. But I think so often, especially in the sort of my space, which is not my space, but you know, the space I'm in is more on the artistic side and got freelance photographers, designers, illustrators, and we're moving towards this freelance society where people really are their own boss and, and when it comes down to it, that, that inner voice, when, when Seth said that is like, if you talked to any of your employees, how you talk to yourself, they'd either punch you in the face or they'd get up and leave. No one would work for you if you talk to them that way. But why? Why do we then give ourselves the permission to talk to ourselves that way? Our just our own internal voices that tells us we suck, tells us where failure tells us we're not good enough.
05:16 Tells us we, you know, basically suck. And like this is a voice that I've dealt with so much of my life and career and those internal voices there, they're just not helpful and they're not going to actually make you better. There's one thing to have, and I've sort of argued this with myself, is the element of feeling like, oh, they're the reason why I'm successful there. The reason why I have so much drive is because I'm constantly never feeling like I've made it or I'm never good enough. And I think there's. There's a massive difference between drive and a critical self voice and there's a difference in pride versus being proud of the work that you've done and there's. There's an element of perfectionism that is really debilitating and it. It stops you in your tracks and it doesn't allow for you to just produce and ship because by producing and shipping, that's a technical term sort of in marketing and sales.
06:13 Just produce a product and ship it out - put together a shoot and just put it out in the world. There's those elements where, as a perfectionist, you tend to not allow yourselves the freedom to fail and so therefore you don't start and half the battle is starting and just putting out content and the more content that you put out, the more. More of the things that you do in your craft and you constantly do it. You constantly work at it, you hone that craft and you become better. And, and the thing happens through doing it through failing and maybe not putting out this sort of work that you really, really want to be putting out, but you got to do it, you know, and sometimes that voice limits you there. The other thing I wanted to bring up that this deal, uh, this article talks about is really the self motivated but then also self organized.
07:05 Someone who figures out a way to work from home and then turns into turns into a two year journey, laptop in hand as they explore the world while doing their job. You know? And that's, I think that's the dream that gets portrayed as this freelancer that you can be your own boss, you can work from the couch and your sweats and never have to get out of pajamas. You can travel the world and be your own boss. And those things are true, but man, it takes work. It takes discipline, it tells, it takes self assigning. It takes your own accountability on yourself or being able to build up a team around you that can keep you accountable because if you are not doing that, the things that you're wanting to do, the things that you're wanting to accomplish, unless you are an extremely self motivated and goal setting and strategic, they're not going to get done as well or as often as you'd like them to do.
08:05 So those are just some words of encouragement of like one being, if you are in this freelancer path and journey, you know, doing, doing this as your life, you are your own boss to let you feel like, okay, I do resonate with the self deprecating voices with the been a horrible Boston myself. You know, I've said that to other people is like if people, if I know that if I treated people or I talk to people, how I talk to myself, they would legitimately like never want to be around me, want to punch me in the face and think I'm the worst person in the world, but why? Why do you feel like that's okay to talk to yourself that way? It's not and it's not true. Generally all of the stuff that you're telling yourself, so shut that voice down and don't believe it and tell yourself a different story.
09:01 Tell yourself a story that you are organized. If you're disorganized person and you start to actually like become the thing that you're telling yourself, you start to live out the story that you're telling yourself so you have the ability to tell yourself a different story. Not to say I'm not good. You'd say, no, I am good enough. That's not a prideful thing. You just. You start to believe that you are capable and then you end up becoming capable. So doing that, but then also being able to think through how to organize your day, your week, your month, so you actually are efficient while you're working. There's a lot of good journals out there. There's a lot of good things you could look up and I actually have some stuff in the works that we can talk about later, but yeah, hopefully this is an encouragement for you to hear some of this, to maybe sit back and think like, oh, I'm not alone in this journey.
09:50 I'm not the only one that feels this way, but you have the ability to change your story. You have the ability to tell a different story and I really want to encourage you to do that until a story. It might. It might take sitting down with a journal and writing out that story. What is the story that you want to believe? What is a story that you want to be living out and how would that person who lives this story be acting today? How would that person who lives that story be living today be? How would there, how would their work week look? How would their work day look? How would their time with their family look? How would their time with their self look, you know, are you taking care of yourself? If not, take care of yourself because I've also gone down that road, have never taken a day off of working seven days a week, traveling too much, not getting enough exercise, not eating well enough, drinking too much, you know, all of those things was just like lead to feeling like crap and burning out and causing havoc on my family and not having a wife that is feeling very loved and cared for because I'm working too much.
10:56 You know? So if you're a. This is analogy I like, I like to use and this is turning into a longer ramp then I was planning, but if your metaphorical cup is empty, you have nothing else to give, you have nothing to give to anybody else. You have nothing to give to your business, you have nothing to give to yourself, your friends, your family. If you're in a position of being able to help and serve other people, you're not able to do that. So make sure that your cup is full or at least not empty, you know, so work on filling your own cup, work on talking nicer to yourself, work on really crafting the story that you want to be living. Really hope that video was helpful and just again, really want to encourage you to be taken care of yourself. And then also just, yeah, what is that story that you're going to craft that you're going to live out so you can be who you want to be.